What You Need to Know About Marriage (or WYNTKAB)

A couple celebrating their fiftieth wedding anniversary was asked the secret to their success. The husband replied, ‘The day we got married we agreed that if an argument arose I’d go out and stand on the porch until I cooled off. And it worked like a charm; fifty years of being outdoors in all that fresh air was exactly what this relationship needed!’

Thinking about tying the knot?

Here are three things you need to know about marriage:

1) It’s a commitment – ‘You’re first.’ Speaking those words on special occasions is easy, but couples need to speak them seven days a week. A film star who’d been through several failed marriages told an interviewer, ‘I’ve given up trying to find the right person. Now I’m working at becoming the right person.’ That formula always works!

2) You need to show your concern – ‘What do you need?’ Husbands and wives are as different as chalk and cheese. And to complicate things further, their needs change according to the season of life they’re in. So when the husband asks, ‘How are you today?’ he needs to slow down and listen. The wife may not want him to solve the problem, but to share it. Closeness in marriage isn’t an accident: it’s a decision couples make, and keep making every day.

3) Couples find ways to cope – ‘We can work it out.’ Marriage may alleviate the problem of loneliness, but it presents the challenge of getting along with another person. Surprised? Marriage teaches you that you can’t always avoid conflict, but you can make it work for you. The truth is, unless there are two winners in a marriage, there are none at all. Think about that!

‘Husbands…be considerate.’  1 Peter 3:7 NIV

‘Wives…be…worthy of respect.’  1 Timothy 3:11 NIV

Bob Gass

November 2nd, 2015

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