Word 4U Today

TINIEST TEMPER

TINIEST TEMPER

 

Let’s get to the root of this anger chat:

It’s pretty clear that charging angrily into a situation doesn’t get us anywhere.

And God’s not too keen on us doing that either. The thing is, there are much, much better (and God-approved) ways to deal with those ‘Hulk smaaaaaaaash’ moments.

We know, in some situations it’s impossible to not feel a flash of rage – we can’t exactly choose what to feel. BUT, what *is* our choice, is what we do with that feeling. Here are our options:

1)    Keep it in. Don’t say anything and let that anger stay with us for the rest of the day/week/century.

2)     Act in the heat of the moment and our mood, and let the object of our anger know exactly what we think of them.

3)     Have a conversation. Calmly. Try to understand whatever-it-is-that-made-your-blood-boil, and go from there.

Now, only one of those options seems to make sense to us. Care to take a guess? Yup. We’d recommend facing the thing that bugs you, with as much grace and God-given understanding as you can pray for. Proverbs 15:1 says

‘A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger’ (NIV).

Gentleness may not seem like the easiest, or most impressive, response to an enraging situation. But it’s the right one.

What Now?

Next time you feel like giving someone a piece of your mind, stop. Take seven breaths. Ask the person a question (e.g. “To help me understand, what did you mean by…”), and use their answer as the start of a dialogue.

Verse of the Day:

“…Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” James 1:19 NIV

Joy Ferdiz

June 14th, 2014

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