Word 4U Today

IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME

IT’S NOT YOU, IT’S ME

When it comes to any of our ‘relationships’ with others (literally any friendships, sibling relationships, colleagues you kind-of-don’t-want-to-but-kind-of-have-to be sitting next to, marriage, parents), there’s a simple acid-test we should be checking.

Ready?

Here it is: ‘Am I going in the right direction?’ Nice question, W4U, but what does that mean for navigating a world populated with friends and strangers?

Well, all your thoughts, plans and decisions are either heading in your direction, or away from yourself and to God’s direction.

And God’s direction is always towards the well-being of the other person. Guess it’s kind of obvious.

We all have relationships we don’t enjoy, though: what about when they just keep doing it wrong, and we have to get all defensive?

Or when they’re SO full of gossip that it’s impossible not to join in (and maybe add a few tidbits about those doing the gossiping too?)

Or when you’ve both messed up, but the easiest thing to do is just pass the blame on? Hmm.

When you are taking the trouble to bring about the best good for the other person and not focus on their problems or mistakes, you’re doing it right.

Joseph Phillips said,

“Any idiot can point out sin. It takes ‘eyes that see’ to see the rhythms of grace at work in a person.”

What now?

Choose not to gossip. Instead, make a tally on your phone of how many (genuine) compliments you can give today. Call a friend. Make up with a person you’ve had a major falling out with.

Verse of the Day:

 ‘…be patient, bearing with one another in love.’ Ephesians 4:2 NIV

Joy Ferdiz

March 11th, 2014

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