Word 4U Today

COMMUNICATE! (3)

COMMUNICATE! (3)

Building trust and intimacy in communication requires:

1) Working to build trust.

Trust is not a ‘right’: it’s a privilege you earn by proving you’re trustworthy. We pay little attention to politicians who say, ‘You can count on me,’ unless their track record supports it. Christ’s standard for trust was ‘…believe because of the work you have seen me do’ (John 14:11 NLT).

We know from social psychology research that speaking gently and slowly can deepen the listener’s openness and respect for you. The tone of your voice matters a lot. The University of Houston did a conclusive study that found if you lower your voice and speak slowly, your listener will respond with greater openness and trust.

This research has helped oncologists present bad news to patients in a more supportive way. When doctors reduced their speaking rate and pitch, patients perceived them as more caring and sympathetic. The Bible calls this ‘a soft answer’ (Proverbs 15:1 NKJV), and it will work for you too.

2) Training your brain to really listen.

Listening is hard work because we habitually focus on ourselves and our interests through constant self-talk. Studies show that the average person cuts in before the speaker finishes. Even doctors who are trained to listen for important medical information tend to cut patients off within twenty-three seconds—long before they have been fully heard. Train yourself to stay focused on the other person, their words, facial expressions, and body language. Within just a few weeks you can train yourself to become the kind of communicator people will trust.

‘Let your conversation be gracious and attractive so that you will have the right response for everyone.’

Colossians 4:6 NLT


ENCOURAGEMENT 4 TODAY

Jeremiah 1:9, 12, 17; 15:16; 17:10; 29:13;

Behold, I have put my words in your mouth! I am watching over my word to perform it!

But you, dress yourself for work; arise, & say to them everything that I command you! Your words were found, & I ate them, & your words became to me a joy & the delight of my heart, for I am called by your name!

“I the Lord search the heart & test the mind, to give every man according to His ways, according to the fruit of his deeds!”

let him who has my word speak my word faithfully!

Is not my word like fire, & like a hammer that breaks the rock in pieces?

You will seek Me & find Me, when you seek Me with all your heart!

I will be found by you!

Call to me & I will answer you, & will tell you great & hidden things that you have not known!

God has promised you so much! Seek him with all your heart & He will be found by you!  You are His child! He longs to lead you! Seek Him today! Never delay!

Bob Gass

May 28th, 2015

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